the dead in dreams

Only in one's dreams can one meet the dead. Yet, still, it's strange they do not seem to notice their disadvantage. Or perhaps, stranger still, one does not remember in the moment that these are the dead before one, and one's psyche excoriates them very bit as mercilessly as it does the living. Is it too much to ask for a modicum of respect, for a bit of decency and reverence, from one's own subconsciousness?